Life Update: Got Married
Di Usia tiga puluh, curhatan lima tahun lalu tentang kapan nikah-yang belum ter-publish- akhirnya disusul dengan postingan ini. What I can say, during these-more-than five years, here are the lists of lesson I got:
1. Everybody has their own pace
Feel jealous because other people got what you can't get, such as buying new car, get married earlier than you, already having kids? Well, thats normal. But remember, probably you cant feel happy and contented IF you get at the same time with them. Ada target yang harus kamu raih sebelum sampai ke taraf jodohmu itu. Ada pekerjaan yang harus kamu selesaikan sebelum orang yang tepat itu datang menghampirimu. Ada mimpi yang mungkin tidak bisa kamu raih jika kamu menikah lebih dulu. I do not want to be preachy here, but that what I think to rasionalize what happened on me and what I already gone trough.
2. If you think you are in a toxic relationship, cut it off as soon as possible.
I have been really exhausted in my previous relationships, especially before the last one. It had been more than two years, and we were not moving further. Although we talked (almost) every night, but our discussion was not developed well. His high jealousy towards all my male friends often drove me crazy. Yes of course I understand that he came from broken home family, but seemef he always blame everything except himself. It was draining my energy. Thank God I find more mature man and we finally get married.
3. Always be grateful for whatever 'gift' you received.
I said to my previous boyfriend, "If we don't get married this year, I will use the money for my mom to go for "umroh". He could not say anything, so I registered my mom to travel. I am very happy that finally she can visit holy city. Yes of course my brother also took apart in this 'umroh'-thank you for that-, but still, I am very happy. And you know what, one month after, I get married. I really cant be more grateful for that.
4. Sacrifice is real
Berkorban untuk orang yang dicintai adalah nyata. Now I decide to get close to my family in my hometown. I know my mom wanted me to get close to her since my father passed away two years ago. She is struggling with my brother which has skizophrenia and bipolar. And just few months ago I follow my husband to live with him, which is nearer to my mom. It means I have to leave my metropolitan life which I already live with it for more than twelve years. Leave all comfort to live as life it is in small town. My mom of course feel happy because I am near with her, but then I can't support her financial-at least for now-anymore.
5. Right person will come when you are ready, when you need, not when you want
As a moslem woman, I always believe that Allah always give me what I need, not what I want. My life is hard, and I know I can pass. Good thing passed, also bad thing. We live in this world to run His destiny towards us, and we live to maximise our life to obey His rules.
Well, thats all my rambling. Nyampur bahasa is not good thing, jangan ditiru.😅
Tapi yang di otak seperti itu, akan lebih cepat jika dituang langsung.
Cheers😘😘!!
1. Everybody has their own pace
Feel jealous because other people got what you can't get, such as buying new car, get married earlier than you, already having kids? Well, thats normal. But remember, probably you cant feel happy and contented IF you get at the same time with them. Ada target yang harus kamu raih sebelum sampai ke taraf jodohmu itu. Ada pekerjaan yang harus kamu selesaikan sebelum orang yang tepat itu datang menghampirimu. Ada mimpi yang mungkin tidak bisa kamu raih jika kamu menikah lebih dulu. I do not want to be preachy here, but that what I think to rasionalize what happened on me and what I already gone trough.
2. If you think you are in a toxic relationship, cut it off as soon as possible.
I have been really exhausted in my previous relationships, especially before the last one. It had been more than two years, and we were not moving further. Although we talked (almost) every night, but our discussion was not developed well. His high jealousy towards all my male friends often drove me crazy. Yes of course I understand that he came from broken home family, but seemef he always blame everything except himself. It was draining my energy. Thank God I find more mature man and we finally get married.
3. Always be grateful for whatever 'gift' you received.
I said to my previous boyfriend, "If we don't get married this year, I will use the money for my mom to go for "umroh". He could not say anything, so I registered my mom to travel. I am very happy that finally she can visit holy city. Yes of course my brother also took apart in this 'umroh'-thank you for that-, but still, I am very happy. And you know what, one month after, I get married. I really cant be more grateful for that.
4. Sacrifice is real
Berkorban untuk orang yang dicintai adalah nyata. Now I decide to get close to my family in my hometown. I know my mom wanted me to get close to her since my father passed away two years ago. She is struggling with my brother which has skizophrenia and bipolar. And just few months ago I follow my husband to live with him, which is nearer to my mom. It means I have to leave my metropolitan life which I already live with it for more than twelve years. Leave all comfort to live as life it is in small town. My mom of course feel happy because I am near with her, but then I can't support her financial-at least for now-anymore.
5. Right person will come when you are ready, when you need, not when you want
As a moslem woman, I always believe that Allah always give me what I need, not what I want. My life is hard, and I know I can pass. Good thing passed, also bad thing. We live in this world to run His destiny towards us, and we live to maximise our life to obey His rules.
Well, thats all my rambling. Nyampur bahasa is not good thing, jangan ditiru.😅
Tapi yang di otak seperti itu, akan lebih cepat jika dituang langsung.
Cheers😘😘!!
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